Moral Development (and Women's Morality) - By johnsmith79

Moral Development (and Women's Morality)

This is very important, so please take your time to read it.

Humans are born amoral and learn morality progressively in stages. Jean Piaget found that children’s ideas regarding rules, moral judgements and punishment tended to change as they got older. In other words just as there were stages to children’s cognitive development so there were also stages to their moral development.

Lawrence Kohlberg then performed many studies and documented these stages of moral development. He categorised them into 6 stages from infancy to adulthood - one can see the stages here ( images.app.goo.gl/P1iAgEVPh7LxfsEu5 ) and read more about it here (source:  owlcation.com/social-science...al-Development ).

Kohlberg found that moral development stages are progressive, progress by mastering each stage, one at a time. A person could not advance a stage without first mastering the prior stage.

In the stage 1 (Avoiding Punishment), young children obey rules because they are told to do so by an authority figure (parent or guardian or teacher), and because they fear punishment if they do not follow rules. Children at this stage are not able to see someone else's point of view.

In stage 2 (Self-interest), the child begins to understand that others have needs, but seeks to secure the greatest rewards for him/herself. The child may make deals to behave in a certain way in exchange for a payoff. "I'll do this, if you will do that." Sometimes, the payoff is in the knowledge that behaving correctly is in the child's own best interest. They receive approval from authority figures or admiration from peers and avoid blame. They are just beginning to understand that others have their own needs and drives.

In stage 3 (Social Conformity), children begin to be concerned about being accepted by their friends and peers and living up to their expectations. This stage begins around age 10 but lasts well into adulthood, and is the stage most adults remain at throughout their lives.

In stage 4 (Law & Order), Individuals abide by the rules of the society in which they live. These laws and rules become the backbone for all right and wrong actions. Children and adults feel compelled to do their duty and show respect for authority. This reflects a shift from that of their immediate social group to society at large.

In stage 5 (Social Contract & Individual Rights), In this stage, individuals value the will of the majority and the well-being of society. Moral behaviour and moral decisions are based on seeking the greatest good for the greatest number of individuals so that society may continue.

In stage 6 (Universal/Ethical Principles), the individual governs themselves by what they consider to be universal moral principles, usually involving equal rights and respect. They obey laws and social rules that fall in line with these universal principles, but not others they deem as aberrant. Adults here are motivated by individual conscience that transcends cultural, religious, or social convention rules. Kohlberg recognized this last stage but found so few people who lived by this concept of moral behavior that he could not study it in detail.
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Now the important bit - Kohlberg found that as young girls developed, they developed normally, going from stage 1, to stage 2, then somehow got stuck at stage 3 of the moral development ladder, seemingly unable to progress to stage 4 and above.

Enter Carol Gilligan, a female researcher, who also found that women similarly get stuck at stage 3 and attributed it to the extremely high value women placed on social interaction above all else.

Gilligan could not dispute Kohlberg's findings and given women would appear stuck at stage 3 of the development ladder, she simply re-labelled women's morality as 'the Ethics of Care' which only has 3 stages (corresponding to the first 3 stages of Kohlberg's ladder).

The important takeaway is this:-

A woman's highest form of morality is based on social conformity and social interaction while a man's highest form of morality is based around fairness and treating others fairly.

Now, understand that most women fail to comprehend the importance of social contracts and universal ethics. Her version of Justice and Fairness is whatever the current social interaction and conformity is.

Place an average woman in a social environment with valueset A, and she will change her morality to conform with valueset A.
Place her into a new social environment with valueset B, and she will change her morality to conform with valueset B. - This is where the saying 'Women change to fill the shape of the container they are placed in' comes from.
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Now add this - there is well-documented evidence of automatic female in-group bias, leading to the tendency to believe and/or grant the benefit of doubt to the woman over the man.

Note that this in-group bias is present in female monkeys ( www.telegraph.co.uk/science/...viously-right/ ) as well as human females (women have an automatic in-group bias while men do not:  https://rutgerssocialcognitionlab.we...in2004jpsp.pdf )

In 2004, Rudman & Goodwin conducted research on gender bias that measured gender preferences without directly asking the participants. This research found that while both women and men have more favorable views of women, women's in-group biases were 4.5 times stronger than those of men. Their studies also revealed that men lack a mechanism that bolsters automatic preference for their own gender.​

The end result is obvious - Do not expect fairness from a woman. Her highest form of morality is to conform to the social norms and to the sisterhood.

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What are the implications of this?

Family courts and Social Services are staffed overwhelmingly with women (source: 82% of social workers are female:  www.mic.com/articles/30974/a...is-hurting-men ).

Under the current social norms where the prevailing narrative is based on the Duluth Model (all women are innocent victims and all men are evil perpetrators), this leads to a situation where divorce court judgements are overwhelmingly and grossly unfair - the mother is usually given preferred treatment at the expense of the father. In most cases, the father is treated most unfairly (as posted previously in 'Legions of Men Get Screwed').

There are many cases in the family courts where even blatant evidence of abuse by the mother is ignored in favour of giving preference and benefit of doubt to the woman while casting blame on the man.

It should be no surprise then, that Family Courts and Social Services are the most biased pro-women and anti-male government agencies around.

It is a mandatory requirement for the courts as well as in the governing of a nation, that concepts of ethics and principles be viewed in abstract and practised routinely so as to ensure justice is fairly and consistently dispensed for all society and for good of the country.

A case should be made that women's in-group bias and large difference in moral development provides an argument against having women in the judiciary, in government and in any position of power where one is required to exercise judgement based on Fairness and Principles.

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Legions of Men Get Screwed - A reminder of why we encourage men to Go Their Own Way.

This is but a small selection of married men who were screwed by the gynocentric family-divorce courts so much they took their own lives:
(Link: fathersforlife.org/suicides/men_who_broke.htm )

Aaron Dookie (Ontario) Murder-Suicide

Allen Wells - Battered Husband - Divorce - Suicide

Alan Grantham - Suicide, Gassed in car

Alan Jones (U.K.) - Suicide

Alex Nicholson (U.K.) - Suicide, Gassed in car

Andrew T. Renouf

Memorial Service

Suicide Note

Antonio Merola - Accused of sexually abusing son, shot father-in-law, jailed

Anthony Clemson (UK) - Suicide, Hanging

Brian Smith - Suicide, overdose

Clifford Peacock (U.K.) - Suicide, Gassed in car

Clive Cass (U.K.) - Suicide, Drowned

Darrin White - Suicide by hanging (after he got sentenced to pay child support and alimony at more than twice his income - he had just enough money left to buy a length of new rope.)

David Bengert - Suicide, shot himself in mother's home

David Clancy, an Edmonton police officer, shot himself

David Dosdall - Suicide

David Harmsworth (U.K.) - Suicide, Gassed in van

David Piggott (U.K.) - Suicide, Poisoning

Derrick K. Miller Sr. - Suicide, shot himself on courthouse steps

Edmonton man found hanging in fire - Suicide

Garrett Williams - Suicide, Strangled

Grant Harder - Murder-suicide; near Camrose, Aberta, Canada

Gregory D. Seath, Police Officer - Suicide in front of super-market shoppers

In Quebec - Murder-suicide

James Gritz - Found shot

J.D. Creason - to be put on trial for attempted murder of lawyer

John Rubben, Mark Corkish (U.K.) - Suicides, Fall off Bridge and Poisoning

Kelly McGinness - sentenced to 70 years for murdering lawyer

Larry Cofield - Suicide

Man hangs himself at concert - Suicide

Man shoots children and himself - Murder/Suicide; Throckmorton, Texas

Mark Edward Dexel - Father of five, suicide by hanging

Martin Romanchick - Suicide

Marvin Davids - Suicide

Michael Horner (U.K.) - Suicide, Gassed in car

Petruk - Murder/Suicide

Peter Ayres (U.K.) - Suicide, Electrocution

Peter Kiss - Killed five in murder-suicide in Grimsby, Ontario

Peter Stafieri - Suicide

Reginald Sublet - Murder-suicide

Randy Couch - Suicide

Roger Sandsmark - Murder of Lawyer - Suicide

Stefan F., Paris, Texas - Suicide; Mom abducts their son to Germany. Courts sit on their hands. Dad shoots himself.

Stephen Jackson (U.K.) - Suicide, Poisoned

Steven Cook - Suicide, (after being jailed for two months for calling his 3-year-old daughter on the wrong day of the week)

Steve Sanders - Suicide

Simon Gonzales - Murder of 3 Daughters - Suicide-by-Police

Thomas Alaimo - Suicide by hanging

Tom Ball - Suicide through self-immolation in front of court house (Tom Ball's Last Statement; PDF file, 133 kB; See also this related commentary at  lewrockwell.com/grigg/grigg-w219.html  : When the State Breaks a Man, by William Norman Grigg)

Tony Cummings (U.K.) - Suicide, Hanging

Trevor Lane (U.K.) - Suicide, Gassed in car

Warren Gilbert (Australia) - Suicide holding a letter of demand from the CS agency, gassed in car

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Of particular note is Darren White, who committed suicide by hanging.

He was falsely accused by his ex with three separate domestic violence allegations - note that this was some 20+ years ago, and women were already able to cry 'domestic violence' to gain the sympathy of the court and to have the man evicted.

He had no place to stay, was sentenced to pay child support to his all his first family and also to his second ex and alimony, the total of which amounted to more than 200% of his disability income.
He had just enough money left to buy a length of new rope with which he hung himself.

Darren White was facing three separate domestic violence allegations, all apparently false, had to appear in eight different court hearings during the space of last week (Family Court, Court of Queens Bench and B.C. Superior Court), was ordered to pay $2,070 in child support (half of that is alimony to his ex who had left him, took the children and denied him child visitations), and was given two days to vacate his home. He had nothing left to live on. Darrin was on a disability allowance, and the judge ignored that Darrin had the obligation to pay $438/month in child support for the child of his first family.
The following is a letter written by Darrin White's daughter Ashlee:

I am writing on behalf of Darrin Bruce White. I am the oldest of his four children.

My name is Ashlee A D Barnett-White.

I am angry at the justice system and Maddy White ( my step mother ).
No one would listen to my father , no one would give him a chance to speak.

In this century everyone hears the woman and not the man , this is a very sexist matter that needs to be dealt with.
My dad was an abused husband, he was abused by his wife, and the justice system.

My dad was a very good father and wanted the best for all four of his children , his children at this time are 14, 10, 9, and 5.
All of us children were his life.
He wanted everything he could possibly give to his children and what he couldn't.
The most important thing he gave his children were his love, and being there for them.
He loved all of his kids equally, and with all his heart.
He was a kind man who fought a good fight but no matter what he did or said, he could never win with this system.
Things need to change for all fathers going through this same thing.
We need to help, too many kids go without a father because of this , too many kids are hurt.
My dad would never hurt anyone.
He was strong, caring and tried to help as much as he could.
Now Maddy is trying to keep away from the people that really loved him, were he was born and raised, and were his family lives.
I know in my heart this is wrong and somebody has to do something.
My grandfather and my uncle are out in Prince George at this very time fighting for him.
And for his rights.
Please help bring my daddy home were he belongs, and were he would like to be.
I know deep down in my heart if you help we will win , and help every other father out there without his rights.
I may be 14 but I know where he belongs, and so do you.
Please bring my daddy home.
Sincerely with thought,

Ashlee A D Barnett-White .Go Your Own Way Gents