johnsmith79
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(link:
What Really Happens to Sexual Desire During Marriage? | Psychology Today
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- Two longitudinal studies reveal an emerging mismatch in sexual desire over the early years of marriage.
- Five years into marriage, the average husband's sexual desires are unchanged, but the average wife's have decreased.
We tracked newlywed couples over the early years of their marriages. Every six months or so, they answered questionnaires about their sexual desires, their marital satisfaction, and other factors. No two couples are exactly alike, of course, but the
general pattern was clear from both studies. Over the first four or five years of marriage, the wife’s sexual desire declined steadily, while the husband’s showed no change. The same pattern was found for the questions that asked about desire specifically for sex with one’s spouse and for sex with anybody in general.
Five years into the marriage, the average husband’s desire for sex is the same as when he walked down the aisle, but his wife’s desire has dwindled.
What’s more, we found that
marital satisfaction for both husband and wife deteriorated in step with the wife’s loss of sexual desire. (The husband’s sexual desire was irrelevant to anybody’s marital happiness.) Might wives lose sexual desire because the marriage is turning bad? No: Time-lag analyses indicated that
her loss of desire came first, leading to lower satisfaction later. Early levels of (dis)satisfaction did not predict how rapidly the wives lost interest in sex.
Crucially,
it was not due to childbirth. Becoming parents made the mismatch worse, as in steeper declines in wives’ sexual desire. (In one study, but not the other, becoming a father significantly increased the man’s sexual desire!) Nor was it due to stress or depression, though those may have contributed to part of the problem in some cases.
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TLDR: More studies proving what many men have been saying for generations: Once a woman gets that wedding, that's when the sex starts to decline.
Why is this relevant to MGTOW? Men are often fooled into believing that just because they are getting it on like rabbits before marriage, that she won't change after getting the wedding of her dreams. Its all bullshit. There is no unicorn. You blue-pilled, trad-con men coming in here trying to sell us marriage, this is evidence specifically for you. Don't say you weren't warned.
