Blue-Pill Confessional: What's the least dignified Beta-male act you've made? 4

kev03 :

I was cat-sitting for about 2 weeks for my gf (whom I didn't fuck, I didn't get around to fucking her, since I could do it only when inebriated to stand her ugly ass, and she could do it only when sober, she explained she could cum only when sober) when she went to Turkey for vacation, and during that time I did her work besides my own work (we're in the same line of business). I covered her for several years in this way. I was also buying cat-food, and of course she did not pay for cat-sitting. After she returned from vacation, we usually drank Saint-Emilion wine, which I bought. And the cat was pretty psychotic and whined all the time bc his owner left, and did not allow to pet him (fucker). ))

And then later she used to tell me how she hooked up with hot Turkish dudes who fucked her old ass.
I forgot to mention she was10 years my senior. ))
I also used to edit a lot of her work free of charge.


Chairborne :

>   Originally Posted by Indianajohn 

> I got my girl friend pregnant and married her.
> 30 years later, here I am.
> Haven't pulled the pin yet. I stand to have to pay 50% of my income to her for the rest of her life. Plus loose half my pension and 401K and the house.
> BDG really looks down on someone that divorces a disabled spouse.
> I'm still trying to figure a way out. Just haven't decided is pulling the pin is worth it yet

The Disability thing is definitely a constraint. But just the financial consequences, but there may also be guilt from leaving a disabled person to "fend for themselves".

2 points to consider;

1. Fuck the finances, it is better to be poor & free than financially secure & miserable. Living in another country can lower your expenses.

2. Disability doesn't absolve somebody of the consequences of their actions. If she is a mean, bitter hag... If she is abusive (emotionally)... Then don't feel guilt over leaving.


College MGTOW :

>  Originally Posted by Chairborne 

> You dodged a bullet CollegeMGTOW. Seriously.

Fuck a bullet. In Washington State, that "bullet" felt like a hare-brained man, with failing memory, with his finger over the trigger of the US nuclear arms aimed right at my asshole. I worried for years. Mainly because holy shit, was I stupid with that broad. Not only did I volunteer such a thing, I also helped take care of her cumdumpster spawn. Great, wonderful kid, just born to the wrong mother. Pawned my bass (and subsequently lost it) to keep her afloat between paychecks. Oh, and this was all during her carouseling years. So much bullshit with long, long statutes of limitations. I was finally free of the last of it when her daughter, that I helped take care of for... three or four years from infancy as a stable paternal figure, said she couldn't remember a bit of who I was.

I know I didn't have to elaborate, since I won already (Oppression olympics, man-style! YEAH! Nooooo....), but there's the reason why I didn't need to. Because there were stupider decisions behind it!

But look, hell, she was the best thing that had ever happened to me. She showed me how much women are really worth. Which is why, while I'm ashamed, I don't regret it. They were a critical set of lessons I needed to learn only one way: The hard way. Going my own way let me put into focus what is really important... Me.


Raskolnikov :

>   Originally Posted by William Noy 

> Lots of views. This thread seems popular with the lurkers lol. Feel free to join in, folks.

I don't have any life-wrenching blue pill actions/decisions like some of the other posts on this thread, just me being young and naive.

The girl I lost my virginity to (I was 17, she was 15 and not a virgin) told me if I drove her 30 miles across town to her ex-boyfriend's house she would get us a quarter ounce of weed that he allegedly owed her. So I drive her over there, and wait in the car for half an hour while she's inside. She comes out all hot and sweaty, hair dishevelled, and no weed. I'm pissed about her wasting my time and no weed, but totally clueless that she was inside fucking him. I tell my friends (who were all looking forward to smoking some of that weed) what happened a few hours later, and they all start laughing at me and telling me what a slut she is. And yes, I didn't even break up with her until a few months later, because vagina.


Chairborne :

Raskolnikov, that's pretty damn Beta. Lol.
Kev03, taking care of another's pet for no recognition could be ok if the pet was cool - but if it's a vile, mean creature, then there's no real upide, huh?

Ah well, live n' learn.


flailer :

Fuckity FUCK FUCK FUCK !!!!!!!!!!!

I'd MUCH rather focus on positive chances I (we) have made in our choices, behavior, & actions!!!


Chairborne :

You can still do that - no need to read the anecdotes here if you don't want to. But for those who do, there's humour and warning in comparing the mistakes we've made.


smallbitsoffire :

Reading this gets me throwing up my guts!


flailer :

You're right.

OK, here is mine:
- I lost hundreds of thousand of dollars, well over $400,000.00 , to a Lying, Cheating, Stealing, Hate-filled, Selfish BITCH.
- I lost out on a serious amount of Joy, Happiness, & Freedom too.

Lesson #1: NEVER fully trust a Woman.
Lesson #2: NEVER fucking forget lesson #1


Abdenour :

>   Originally Posted by flailer 

> You're right.
> OK, here is mine:
> - I lost hundreds of thousand of dollars, well over $400,000.00 , to a Lying, Cheating, Stealing, Hate-filled, Selfish BITCH.
> - I lost out on a serious amount of Joy, Happiness, & Freedom too.
> Lesson #1: NEVER fully trust a Woman.
> Lesson #2: NEVER fucking forget lesson #1

Time to vote for gold, silver and bronze medals. I vote this one as gold medal, and the Canadian in the military who gave $16,000 to an ex short term girl friend as the silver medal. I would have to re-read the whole thread to vote on a bronze medal. Of course, my vote is subject to change as more stories come in.

Flailer, could you elaborate on how you lost well over $400,000 to a woman. Was it a marriage and cash out divorce situation ?

A couple of years ago, I saw a documentary on TV about marriage, divorce, pre nups, etc. One guy who owned and ran his own business had a $40 million net worth, married a woman he was set up on a blind date with, without a pre nup, in a community property state. She stayed with him just long enough to qualify for half his assets, divorced him and walked out with $20 million. He said in the documentary he was angry. He said some of his VPs have $20 million, and they worked their ass off for that money. And the only thing that woman ever did in her life was to marry him.


William Noy :

Maybe it's because I'm from a non-community property jurisdiction, but I don't understand how his pre-existing business/net worth could be considered a marital asset. Unless the facts are misconstrued, he brought that with him into the marriage. Just like wifey brought her Aunt Violet's heirloom cuckoo clock into the marriage. He isn't entitled to that clock, even in a community property state (unless I misunderstand), why is she entitled to his wealth?

Pre-nups and claims of non-marital property are often attacked on the basis that wifey somehow added value to the man's assets and therefore they've become marital property. So there IS a concept that wifey must contribute in order to collect. However, what I often find is that courts often just assume she's at home cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids and this allows the man to earn more money unencumbered. But still, I don't see how that entitles her to half. I'm not disputing that many courts WOULD award her half, I'm just saying I'm having trouble reconciling it with my understanding of how the law is supposed to work.


Abdenour :

They didn't go into the legalities in that show. The one hour or so show included several examples. It wasn't just about this case. So they devoted only at most 10 minutes or so for each example. Typical TV show. Just enough information to keep you hooked up until the next commercial, then move to the next case or to interviewing some lawyer (nothing in depth). A nice quote I remember from that lawyer was "If you get married without a pre nup, you don't need a good lawyer; you need a good psychiatrist".

My understanding of community property is that, once you commingle old and new funds, it's all dividable. But I am no expert (far from it) on these issues. I have never been married, never been engaged, never proposed to anybody. So I am a passive non engaged learner about this topic.


William Noy :

That could be it. Like in business. If you co-mingle your personal funds with your business funds, you're screwed because someone with an interest in the business now has an interest in your personal assets.


kev03 :

>   Originally Posted by Abdenour 

> and walked out with $20 million. .

In such cases as these, wimmin do not realize that karma will catch up.
Karma is a bitch.
On the other hand, karma is a complex thing.
In this case, maybe it was the guy's karma to lose some of his assets for something he did in the past (even in remote past, like in some past incarnation).
But the chick will definitely pay for this. You cannot escape karma.
Many people naively think they can avoid retribution, but it's impossible. Sooner or later, she will be fucked.


College MGTOW :

> 
>   Originally Posted by flailer 

> Fuckity FUCK FUCK FUCK !!!!!!!!!!!
> I'd MUCH rather focus on positive chances I (we) have made in our choices, behavior, & actions!!!

I hope this thread stands as a warning, that this is what could happen to you if you don't pursue your own happiness in self-improvement. I'm grateful to be able to immerse myself in academia every day instead of slogging through academia for a job to hold a wench up. My past deviance gave me a great education I'm thankful for, because I got to see, feel and be that beta. That broad gave me lessons that I can pass on to my youngest brother (of 8 years old, oldest of 3, two younger sisters!), and maybe, just maybe, see if I can make a BYTOW [Boy going his own way].

I'm happy because it's over and done with. I'm happy because I'll never deal with that shit again. I'm happy because I have the resources I want and need - me, and all of me - to pursue self-fulfillment and happiness. And no one will take that away from me.


Fully Completely :

The four hundred grand above could of easily been some retirement funds, half the equity of a nice home, material assets and a stake in a small business that has money in the bank. An Italian customer of mine used to be amused at my single status years ago and even had one of his attractive daughters come over to pick up an order once. I recall him explaining to her over MY phone how I was eligible and that I should man up, all in a joking manner. Of course I was somewhat belittled but being the blue pill wanker I was I rolled with it. Then at a later point in time he again brought up the subject. He then yet again asked if I was married so as to see if I was in a position to eventually loose half my assets and home... He had just went through a divorce himself at 60 or so years old. Then moved out west and shacked up with a GF and tried to run his engineering consulting business from home. I consider that anecdote one of the many reasons I stayed single.


Octavian :

Lets hop in the Delorean, and take a ride into the past at 88 MPH. You Euro guys need to do your own Kilometer conversions.

High School. Ushers "Yeah" is blaring out of every radio in earshot, and Apple has just released the revolutionary iPod video. 30 GB of storage! Regrettably, young Octavian is more preoccupied with saving the cash to get a car then he is on avoiding female entanglements. Walking through the halls of an urban high school with his chunky music player, his status as a broke ass dude has ensured hell pass the first three years very much pussy free.


That changed when Octavian got a happy go lucky girl from a different side of town. Being that young Octavian new nothing about sex or girls, he did what he did when his dads car made stage noises or his homework didn't make sense. After two hours a week in the Borders Bookstore relationship section, Mr Octavian knew what it took to keep a girl happy, in and out of bed.

Suddenly, Mr Octavian got real popular with the ankles at his High School. Even the hot mixed girl who looked like Gianna Michaels' twin sister wanted a piece. Yet, his steadfast integrity meant he turned down all comers. Its what a real man did, of course.

Lets take the ol Time Machine for another spin into the future. Octavian goes into the military, and is horrified at what he sees. Lopsided female to male ratios mean the fat girls get to call the shots in couples, and amidst this male hostile environment he meets a mixed girl from Baltimore. Meeting a Dominican girl when you're an E3 in the military should be illegal.

The result was years of psychological power struggling, as the woman fought for the very core of my identity. The experience was akin to being assimilated by the Borg Collective- no area of my life was sacred from her criticism or reach. Any resistance from me meant she played a trump card-calling Base Legal and filing a complaint.

Which is why I broke up with her when I was officially on leave status thousands of miles away from my duty station.

I'll never go back to that state of being again.

>   Originally Posted by Abdenour 

> They didn't go into the legalities in that show. The one hour or so show included several examples. It wasn't just about this case. So they devoted only at most 10 minutes or so > for each example. Typical TV show. Just enough information to keep you hooked up until the next commercial, then move to the next case or to interviewing some lawyer  (nothing in depth).
> A nice quote I remember from that lawyer was "If you get married without a pre nup, you don't need a good lawyer; you need a good psychiatrist".
> My understanding of community property is that, once you commingle old and new funds, it's all dividable. But I am no expert (far from it) on these issues.
> I have never been married, never been engaged, never proposed to anybody. So I am a passive non engaged learner about this topic.

It's dependent on the structure of the business, not necessarily community property.

It is true that assets acquired before the marriage are party to the original earners. When it comes to a business however, the current INTEREST in the business a man has is legally divisible property in some areas regarding divorce.

Example: I form a partnership with my friend, who's married after the company is created. We go 50/50 on investments in and profits coming out. One day his wife goes Mortal Kombat and pulls the finishing move in court. The court can then say "Mr Partner, you must sell your interest in Octavian Co to satisfy the divorce decree. "Alternatively, the court could say that cupcakes entitled to the revenue from the business even though she has no stake directly as a part of her alimony.

Because of how business liability works, an order like that could devestate a company even if it's doing well. If a partner is forced to sell or divest their interest and that person has intellectual property or skill with the business, it can torpedo the entire operation.

Which is why I'd never start a business with a married partner.


Thomas Covenant :

Keyman assurance and a cross-option agreement!

I'll take my 3% fee in cold beers thanks!​​​​​​​


Fully Completely :

I know of a high end machine shop that closed up on account of this. The silent partner passed leaving his stake to his hairdresser wife. The other partner was a guy from France that grew up in the trade, very skilled and fair guy. One morning he came to work only to find that the bitch had moved him out of his upstairs office with view of plant and yard to a smaller room downstairs next to the compressors. She then proceeded to roll back the machinists salaries and hire a pot bellied bean-counter type that would arrogantly walk through the shop and question everyone's motive. The guys hated him instantly and the place closed up a not even a year later. They lost all their skilled staff.