Five Precepts For MGTOW

Looking over the Marriage Strike rules - "do not marry, do not cohabitate, do not procreate" - I realized they're a couple of cards short of a full house. They are the core of MGTOW, but they aren't enough by themselves. What was missing? The idea of living a self-directed life, rather than one directed by others or by Society.

There's something that propels the vast majority of people down the Blue Pill Highway, and I think it could be summed up as "the quest for approval." So much of what we do is motivated by our desire for approval - I'll make a case that it was Mommy's approval that got us toilet-trained! We first went to school for Mommy and Daddy's approval; we worked for good grades for the teachers' approval; we took our friends' dares for the sake of their approval; we spent our money on our Honey for her approval ... and so ad infinitum.

There's a strong hunger for approval in each of us. It's part of being a social being, and we evolved as social beings, from the jungle to the savannahs, to the forests, to the farms and the cities, even here in cyberspace. But the problem is that we can, all too damn easily, let others' approval - or the possibility they'll withdraw their approval - get us off track from Our Own Way, pull us away from our own goals, and route us back onto the Blue Route.

Well - John Galt answered that, countered it, with the oath he offered at the end of his famous speech: "I swear - by my life and my love of it - that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine."

In mind of that, I've added two more items to the Marriage Strike rules, for a total of five ... like the Five Precepts of Buddhism, the rules-to-live-by for that religion (kind of like the Judeo-Christian Ten Commandments):

• Do not marry.
• Do not cohabitate.
• Do not procreate.
• Rid yourself of gynocentrism.
• Follow your own dreams.

I offer these in hopes they'll be solid, fundamental guideposts to the MGTOW life.

Note - 29 Mar 15 - I revised the fourth and fifth precepts. The original list is below:

• Do not marry.
• Do not cohabitate.
• Do not procreate.
• Do not base your self-worth on the approval of others, or of "Society."
• Live your life for your own sake, not for the sake of others, or of "Society."

On reflection - and further reading of later articles here, especially Jagr's " Feminist Thought Control Runs Deep " - I realized that "Reject gynocentrism" is not quite correct. "Reject gynocentrism within yourself" is what I meant. "Rid yourself of gynocentrism" is simpler.

We are aswim in a sea of gynocentrism; it pervades our culture. We imbibe it with our mother's milk - when we're infants, Mama is the center of our world. We learn it from our earliest socialization - "Girls are special, be nice to them, don't hit them," etc. We're fed it in story-books, in cartoons, in the media, on TV, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera ... We get more of it in a school system where the authority figures, the teachers and administrators, are mostly women; IIRC, my first male teacher was in "shop" class in 7th grade. And, of course, we get the full double-whammy-whopper dose of gynocentrism in puberty, when girls change from "annoying" to "exciting" and lust enters our bloodstream with the testosterone surge of our coming-of-age.

We are programmed to put "ladies first," even as women are programmed to accept that as their birthright. The programming runs deep. I believe it builds on our evolution as hunting apes, where the males did the hunting and foraging while the females cared for the young, but the programming goes far beyond the call of evolution. We are conditioned to cater to the women, to vie for their approval, to regard their affection as the Ultimate Prize, to put them and their needs (wants, desires, whims) at the center of our own lives.

That's the gynocentrism I'm calling for you to reject - the inner conditioning, the automatic impulse, to put women first.

It's not a matter of ranting and railing against women-in-general and putting them down in everything you write in this forum. (I know, I use the insults too, but I try to use them as "spices" rather than as the meat of my posts.) It's not a matter of hating women, or habitually treating them hatefully, though the rage of a man who has been court-raped is understandable - and he needs to get through it before he can go on. I don't see it as a matter of "being hateful" to women, either. It's a matter of removing women from the focus of our lives, removing our attention from their claim on it, and putting our own well-being ahead of their wants and needs. It's a matter of breaking our addiction to their approval, and practicing indifference toward them. It's a matter of liberating ourselves both from the desire we have for them and from the anger we feel about having been brainwashed and exploited to serve them.

Then you can devote yourself fully to the fifth precept - Follow your own dreams.

>   Originally Posted by Da Patriarch 

> Probably the hardest part of reconditioning yourself. I'm currently in this phase. How do you get past this?
> I feel like there's a part of me that is still dependent on female validation. I'm finding this bridge a tough one to burn.

Joking answer: As for the part of you that's about six inches long and about 1 1/2 inches thick (your measurements may vary), it can help a lot if you'll just take yourself in hand. (/joke)

Serious answer: Addiction to female validation is, indeed, a tough habit to kick; the conditioning is deep, it starts almost from birth (look up "mother need" on Google), and it's reinforced constantly in our culture. There are quite a few suggestions on other threads - and a wealth of anecdotal evidence about the inner nature of women - their duplicity, their vine-swinging, their hypergamy, the rationalization-hamster, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera; studying and reflecting on that can help. Pursuing your own dreams, not for others' validation but for your own excitement and fulfillment, can work synergistically with that study and contemplation; plus, they'll leave you too busy, too excited, too personally-fulfilled, to be worried about whether you're getting any female validation.

Going Your Own Way is the best treatment I know for female-validation hunger. Take it far enough, and you can "addict" yourself to making your life the best it possibly can be. (And with the money you saved, you can take a nice vacation to Pattaya, Thailand and wear yourself out with the girls of Beach Road and Walking Street.)